This holiday season we are choosing to talk about and share:
- How you can look after yourself this festive period
- Ideas for getting crafty this Christmas​
- Connecting with others
- Being kind to yourself
- Gifting time instead of money
- Warm Spaces
- Where you can go for support this Christmas
- How we can tackle loneliness​
- Love and Kindess
- Community support and how we can give back to the community​
- Selfcare
- A big thank you!
On the 1st day of Christmas I choose to share...
How you can look after yourself this festive season
- Being mindful and being present in the moment
- Making time to practice selfcare
- Connecting with family and friends
- Sharing how you're feeling with others when feeling safe to do so
- Practicing hobbies you enjoy
- Getting active
- Accessing support when you need it
On the 2nd day of Christmas I choose to share...
Ideas for getting crafty this Christmas
Pine cone decorations. Go for a lovely stroll through wooded areas and collect some fresh pine cones. You can either hang these up using some ribbon, or place them in a glass vase or bowl.
Why not create a bright and colourful indoor wreath for free. Cut out a cardboard donut and cut up magazines or paper to create pom poms to stick to the wreath. You can follow this tutorial to learn how to make paper pom poms.
Positivity Christmas calendar – use some clothes pegs and string and write out a positive feel good note to yourself for each of the days leading up to Christmas and peg them all out along the string pinned to the wall.
This cute little Santa disappearing down the chimney can be made from an empty toilet roll tube. Find out how here.
Create an adorable snowman bookmark. All that’s needed is paper, felt pens, string and a paper clip. Find out how here.
On the 3rd day of Christmas I choose to...
Connect with others
I chose to give the gift of connecting. This can not only help those we are connecting with, in feeling valued, seen, and important, but it is also good for our wellbeing.
Giving our time to connect with others helps to remind us we are not alone. You can connect with friends, family members by sending texts or writing letters, giving someone a call, or just a friendly chat to anyone in passing. You can also connect with yourself through journalling, meditating, and self-care.
On the 4th day of Christmas I choose to...
Be kind to myself
Being loving and kind to ourselves takes practice, time and commitment. It is easy to put it to one side and forget about the importance and impact it can have on our wellbeing.
You could try these ideas:
- Find something you like doing. Like going for a walk, meeting friends, discovering a craft or an activity
- Set a time, when you know you are going to be free to do your chosen thing and stick to it. Make it become part of your routine
Christmas can be a stressful time for many reasons. Make sure that you look after your own wellbeing this Christmas and put yourself first – whatever that looks like. It could mean having a bubble bath, reading a book, staying in, turning your phone off, or even making sure you see all your family and friends. Try and be led by what will make you happy. Take some time out .
On the 5th day of Christmas I choose to share...
Giving the gift of time instead of money
Christmas can be a magical time filled with wonderful memories, but it can also bring stress and anxiety from worrying about money.
Your time is much more precious than a badly wrapped impulse gift. By carving out some time in your day to visit a relative or a friend, to engage with them over a cup of tea would mean a lot more than handing over a present on a threshold and saying you will catch up soon.
Lend a hand to volunteering, many people are lonely this time of year so befrienders at local charities would welcome your generosity with open arms. Not only would you be spreading Christmas cheer you may also get that warm and fuzzy feeling yourself.
If you’re worried about your spending habits, being in debt, or not being able to afford the essentials please reach out to a loved one for help. If you struggle with your mental health and money worries Martin Lewis the Money Saving Expert has created a guide titled ‘Mental health & Debt’ which may be an interesting read.
If you know someone who is struggling to heat their home, National Energy Action can provide advice and support: Call 0800 304 7159, Monday to Friday 10.00 am-12.00 noon.
StepChange is a charity which provides free advice around debt, if you feel that you may need their help please go to their website StepChange Debt Charity – Free Expert Debt Advice. or give them a call 0800 138 1111
On the 6th day of Christmas I choose to share...
Warm spaces
Warm spaces will be opened until March 2023 where people can get warm regardless of the prices of heating. They are offered all around Cambridgeshire. We counted about thirty local community spaces listed here, but check the link to look for one near you.
Besides our physical health and warmth, these places are good for our mental wellbeing because they give us a chance to connect with others, share a common interest, be heard, or talk and listen to someone else who we might not otherwise meet. You can find Warm Hubs in your county on this facebook page as well. Cambourne, Caldecote, Mepal, Rampton, Fordham are some of the villages and towns and areas that are doing #WarmHubsCambs free in the county.
Let’s take a moment to imagine what the warm spaces are like:
Imagine Janine making a friend with Barbara while they have a warm drink and tasty piece of cake in Cambourne. Ross may sit quietly in Caldecote; he prefers to be left alone and doesn’t like small talk. But he’s putting the last few pieces in a jigsaw puzzle showing a nice warm beach scene with a sandcastle surf and a lighthouse in the distance. Robert prefers to help, so he’s making the warm toasties and paninis and when everyone’s been fed he gives knitting a try – laughing and teasing that he’s going to knit better than all the ladies (once he learns). There’s Pete, Richelle and Sarah handing out the board games, playing cards and swapping books and magazines while signposting those who find the Stay Well This Winter resources useful.
The cold effects everyone, but the homeless are among the most vulnerable, and Cambridge City Council is working to support every resident to move on into longer-term accommodation. Information is here with phone numbers and details for cold weather support for homeless people.
On the 7th day of Christmas I choose to share...
Where you can go for support this christmas
NHS 111 option 2 – Mental Health Crisis and access to The Sanctuary
Lifeline – free mental health support helpline 11am – 11pm 365 days a year 0808 808 21 21
Samaritans – suicidal and crisis support free from any phone – 116 123 24 hours a day every day
Saneline – mental health support 0300 304 7000 4pm – 10pm 365 days a year
Silverline – support helpline for older people 0800 4 70 80 90 open 24/7
Rape Crisis Support 0808 802 9999 12 noon – 2.30pm and 7 – 9.30pm every day of the year (for women and girls)
Safeline for people who have experienced sexual assault
Male Helpline: 0808 800 5005
General Helpline: 0808 800 5008
Young people’s Helpline: 0808 800 5007
Text Helpline and Online Advisors: 07860 027573
Monday 10am – 4pm|Tuesday 8am – 8pm|Wednesday 10am – 4pm|Thursday 8am – 8pm|Friday 10am – 4pm|Saturday 10am – 12 noon
SHOUT freetexting mental health support text the word SHOUT to 85258
Talk to Frank advice and support with drugs0300 123 6600 24/7 (your provider may charge for calls) free live chat service operates from 2pm – 6pm, 7 days a week. Contact Frank Directly | Confidential Advice | FRANK (talktofrank.com)
CGL Drug and alcohol support – Peterborough Phone number: 01733 895624 (24 hour support line: 08001114354) or Email: peterborough@cgl.org.uk Cambridgeshire Phone: 0300 5550101, option 1 Email: cambridgeshirereferrals@cgl.org.uk
Domestic Abuse Support Service (DASS) telephone DASS on freephone 0300 373 1073   or email DASSreferrals@impakt.org.ukÂ
Cambridge Womens’s Aid Cambridge Women’s Aid – Supporting women affected by domestic abuse (cambridgewa.org.uk) helplines, refuge and web chat.
On the 8th day of Christmas I choose to share...
Love and kindness
Understanding what love and kindness are is a big question and it is personal to each individual. Maybe just being kind is love? Like many emotions and actions, we are often taught to project them outwards, towards others, showing others we are loving and kind individuals by helping, supporting, caring and accepting towards them. But what is often forgotten is us; and learning to be loving and kind to ourselves. And just like throughout our lives we have learnt to be loving and kind to others we have to learn to be loving and kind to ourselves.
On the 9th day of Christmas I choose to share...
How we can tackle loneliness
Do you have a neighbour who needs a chat? Sometimes it helps to get my mind off my problems by spending a bit of time listening to someone else. This doesn’t always work, but is it something to try over the holiday season this year? I like to offer a smile to a person in a shop or someone who I pass on the street. Even these small connections help me when I’m feeling lonely.
The Samaritans say they are here if you need someone to talk to, they listen. They won’t judge or tell you what to do. You can ring them any time, 24 hours a day anywhere from the UK by ringing 116 123 or you can email them on jo@samaritans.org (the response time for emails is 24 hours).
I was a volunteer listener with the Samaritans and I have the utmost respect for their empathy, serious care, and commitment to supporting people by listening rather than giving advice. In their listener training they described that many organisations seek to help people. Imagine if someone is, metaphorically, stuck and trapped in a deep pit. Many organisations’ roles are to figure out how to help the person out of that tough predicament. That is important, but the Samaritans described their role as to climb down to the bottom of that pit and sit there with the struggling person, listening and caring so they don’t have to be alone – believing that listening itself is of deep and significant value.
Frazzled Cafe are a place where people who are feeling frazzled can meet to talk and share their stories. There they say, “It’s not your condition, it’s the human condition, we’re all isolated..” and “It’s okay to not be okay”.
They offer free Facilitator led peer support meetings for smaller groups, ‘Meet-ups’ which are similar to the breakout experience of Ruby’s meeting, Men’s Wellbeing and Mindfulness meetings. These 20-minute sessions aim to help you either focus before the start of your day or help you unwind and regroup towards the end of your day. Cultivating a regular practice of mindfulness is proven to greatly reduce stress and help overall mental health. Book your online meeting space here, email team@frazzledcafe.org or find out more on their website at www.frazzledcafe.org.
MIND has a webpage for the holiday season, dedicated to phone numbers to ring to talk to people who can listen and offer support for all sorts of challenges and Keep Your Head has a directory of services specific to our area in Cambridgeshire and Peterborough.
On the 10th day of Christmas I choose to share...
Community support and how we can give back to the community
This time of year can be a challenging time for people for many different reasons but especially financially. With the cost-of-living increase on food and household bills it can become a worrying time. But if you feel you are struggling, help is available.
Food banks are available throughout Cambridgeshire and Peterborough City. They offer food packages to help feed you and your family. To get a food package from a Food Bank you need to be referred, this means a support organisation needs to complete a form online, with some basic details. You then go to your nearest food bank and collect your food package.
Agencies or support organisations that can make a referral for you are, Health Visitors, Children’s Centres, Citizens Advice Bureau, Social Workers, Doctors etc. Below are links to information on local foodbanks and how to be referred. Remember, it is ok to ask for help.
Here are some ideas on how we can give back to community:
- AgeUK – Make Christmas A Little Brighter
- Cambridge Womens Aid – gift donation and other ways you can give back and help families in refuge
Feels a bit like picking two groups of people is a bit selective and biased, I think we could give some specifics but do a post to say ‘type in xmas volunteering and helping’ and they’d get loads of info of how to donate or physically volunteer
On the 11th day of Christmas I choose to practice...
Selfcare
I chose to give the gift of self-care. We often hear the words ‘self-care’ and they’re sometimes easier said then done, but it is important to try to look after ourselves how ever we can.
Investing our time and energy into ourselves reminds to us that we are important and valuable. It doesn’t have to be big grand gestures, but these are of course allowed.
Examples of self-care: You could make that appointment, connect with someone, do a diary/journal entry, wash your hair, read for 30 minutes, go for a walk, listen to your favourite album, change the bedding, put a candle on, write some affirmations,
Affirmations that you could use as part of your self-care, you might not believe them all or straight away, but they are all true: I am worthy of my own love, I deserve to be happy and healthy, I am stronger than I know, I am enough, I belong here, I am beautiful, I choose to embrace positivity, my challenges help me grow, I forgive myself, I give myself permission to be happy and enjoy life.
On the 12th day of Christmas I choose to share...
A big thank you!
All of us here at The SUN Network would like to say a very happy Christmas and a happy new year to everyone!
We would also love to share a massive thank you to everyone who has given feedback, shared their story, and has worked with us over the past year. We couldn’t do the work we do without you and we look forward to continuing to work with you in the new year!